Etiquette in Times of Trouble

Etiquette in Times of Trouble

My friend has cancer— what do I say? My sister’s husband just died— what can I do? My neighbor has to go for a serious operation— is there anything I can do? My nephew is dealing with serious mental illness— I’d like to be there for him and the...
What Comes After?  Neanderthal

What Comes After? Neanderthal

Neanderthals—dating back to about 160,000 to 40,000 years ago across Eurasia. They were tool makers, hunters, weavers, painters, jewelry makers. Why start our discussion about what comes after with these close relatives, cousins in essence, and ancestors? How are we...
What Comes After?  Neanderthal

What Comes After? Overview

What comes after? I have heard that question from individuals facing imminent death. Now I am hearing it from individuals who have heard about my work in spiritual direction. Sometimes the tone is speculative; sometimes there is a trace of fear; and sometimes there is...
Tuning into the Hope

Tuning into the Hope

Yes, I know we are engulfed in scenes of apocalyptic-scale catastrophes across the globe. Fires. Floods. Populations displaced and at risk. War. Hunger. Covid and other diseases running rampant. The economy is growing/the economy is shrinking. All of this is...
Aging-in-Place? Displacement?

Aging-in-Place? Displacement?

They’re going to have to carry me out of here feet first! Man proposes. What happens when the climate disposes? Images on TV.  A section of a Florida condo complex collapses in minutes; no warning. Death in seconds. The remaining unstable structure brought down some...
Aging and Friendship

Aging and Friendship

In the immortal words of Katie Curtin Sullivan to a lonely little girl: “Peggy, If you want to have friends, be a friend.” (a plaintive) How?  “Ask people about themselves. Be curious. Pay attention. Many people are interesting.” My 40’s and 50’s were good...